by Jennifer Dyer
While in the car the other day Eldest said, “Mom, everyone at school has a new iPhone.”
“Yes.” She spread her hands wide. “Everyone.”
I knew how to play this game, as I’ve spent a lifetime cultivating the skills necessary and could name a host of people who do _____ better than me. I said, “Oh, does Friend 1 have one?”
“And Friend 2?”
We went through a list of several friends, none of whom had an iPhone.
My initial reaction was to lecture about why she was wrong and focusing on the wrong things and blah, blah, blah.
Instead, I sighed. “Honestly, I know exactly how you feel. Lately, it seems as though all your friends’ moms have newer, nicer cars than I do.”
I pointed around me. “In fact, sometimes it feels like almost everyone drives a nicer car than I do, and I bet they don’t have to use a chisel to clean the carpet. I cringe every time we open the doors because I’m not sure what will fall out and I’m pretty sure we have an entire family of chipmunks in here somewhere.”
She nodded. “Too true.”
I went on. “But look around us. There are some nicer cars and some older cars. It’s the same with everywhere I look. It’s all about my focus. I can choose to focus on all the people who have nicer things than me, or I can focus on being thankful for what God has given me. I can also be thankful that God has given gifts to His other children.”
In the end, we decided to spend time focusing and thanking God for several of the things He has given us. And we wouldn’t worry so much about what everyone else has.
And then we got some ice cream. And that is definitely something to thank God about….
How do you talk to your children about being thankful?